(Original article by: Kelly Gonsalves, https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/tantric-massage )
I’ve discovered that most people in Worthing tend to have a routine approach to their sex lives. After the initial enthusiasm of earlier stages of a sexual relationship, many can fall into the trap of following the same sexual acts time after time. This can dull the excitement and pleasure we can get from sex.
In this way, sex looks the same every time. Usually starting with some kissing, maybe some oral, and then the guy penetrating their partner and thrusting hard into a vagina until the guy orgasms.
Learning to move away from these repetitive scripts, however, can unlock whole new worlds of pleasure, and new ranges of sensations, for a far more unique and connective experience.
A very effective way to throw all the rules, put the vanilla lifestyle behind you, and discover the whole range of orgasmic experiences is to explore tantric sex and, specifically, tantric massage.
Here’s what happens during an erotic tantra massage and a few tips on how to give one to your partner.
What is an Erotic Tantric Massage?
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Tantric massage issteeped in history and is a style of massage that draws on the principles of tantra, which is an ancient spiritual practice that originated in Central and Southeast Asia.
In the form practiced here in the UK and Worthing, tantric massage uses a range of techniques for massaging and stimulating the full body with a particular focus on sensitive sexual areas like the penis, vulva and surrounding areas.
It is often just referred to as an erotic massage, but a tantra massagehas more yoga like elements and incorporates breathwork, meditation, and mindfulness elements and not every session is actually sexual.
This kind of erotic massage also has a spiritual and energetic component, with the person giving the massage helping to move the persons energy throughout the body to promote inner healing as well as arousing the sexual energy.
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According to on tantra teacher and massage therapist, “Unlike other forms of massage, this sacred practice incorporates the tantric essence of shakti, or energy. When skillfully incorporating this universal force into a massage, it can touch the deepest layers and aspects of a human being and be a profound instrument of spiritual and emotional healing.”
The art of Tantra originally stems from Hindu, Buddhist, and Jain traditions. Most tantra taught and practiced in the West, however, can be referred to as neotantra. This is a modern version of the art that focuses specifically on sacred sexuality rather than the other spiritual and religious aspects of traditional tantra.
“The experience we offer is not intended for the tantric purist,” states another tantric massage expert. “If anyone desires to explore and commit to the more traditional teachings of tantra, then this experience can serve as a beginning platform.”
Summary
The kind of Tantric massage you’ll find in Worthing is commonly referred to as an erotic massage. This is a style of massage or bodywork that draws on the principles of tantra, an ancient spiritual practice originating in Central and Southeast Asia. It focuses more on the sexual stimulation of an erotic massage andinvolves stimulating sensitive areas like the penis and vulva.
What happens during a tantra massage
What actually happens when you are are offered a tantra massage offered at a massage studio or spa center can vary quite a lot on where you are.
In general, tantric massage involves massaging and stimulating a person’s full body, including penis and vulva, while doing a some degree of breathing exercises, meditating, and other types of spiritual or energy work.
Most types of tantric erotic massage include a yoni massage (working on the vulva), the lingam massage (working on the penis), and massaging what is referred to as the sacred spot (aka the prostate).
Tantric massage can also be done at home and can be a great way to introduce a slower, more intentional, and more intimate form of sex play into the sex life of a couple.
It is quite common for people to orgasm during an erotic tantra massage, but that’s not tactually the goal. Tantric massage is more about experiencing a whole new level of pleasure, releasing blocks in the bodies energy and tension, and connecting spiritually withthe person giving the massage.
Intercourse is not usually part of a tantra massage, but a tantra massage can be incorporated into the sexual experience and play between a couple.
Summary
It is perfectly normal to orgasm during a tantric massage, but that’s not the primary goal. It is more about leaning into pleasure, releasing energetic blocks and tension, and connecting spiritually with another person.
How to give a tantric massage
Before starting out and giving a tantric massage, it’s best to understand and learn more about fundamental tantric principles, This will ensure you’re approaching the experience from a perspective of sacred connection and intentional pleasure, rather than just a physical, albeit pleasurable, experience.
The the most essential elements of a tantra erotic massage are::
- For the person being massaged, being able to receive pleasure without feeling compelled to return the favour.
- For the person giving the massage, being willing to provide such pleasure without feeling the need of the same in return.
- For the person giving the massage, learning to read the partner’s body language and understanding the importance of each touch as they respond.
- For both, forgetting all about the time, simply going with the flow of the experience.
- For both, each of the partners having a strong desire to please and arouse the other.
- Good personal hygiene as preparation for the experience.
“It’s often difficult for someone to express how one wants to be touched and how many people are inept in the way they touch one another,” she tells mbg. “Touching someone in a manner that they want to be touched takes time, experience, and open-mindedness.”
Here is a good routine for the different aspects of an tantric erotic massage. You can do these with a partner or by yourself.
Lingam Erotic Massage
A lingam massage focuses on working, massaging and pleasuring the penis:
- Get the person attached to the penis relaxed, laying on their back in a comfortable position. Ease their legs apart and bend their knees slightly. Ask them to breathe deeply and evenly throughout the massage.
- As the one giving the massage, practice breathing in their energy of arousal as you breath in, and send them back your loving energy as you breath out.
- Lubricate and massage all around the penis first to stimulate the whole area. Start by sliding your hands up the thighs, around the pubic bone, and massaging the perineum.
- Gently and slowly massage the testicles. Do a range of motions, including pulling on them slightly, cupping them in your hands, fondling them, and using your fingernails gently on them.
- Massage and wank the shaft. Vary your grip, stroke speeds and sequences, and use twisting motions. Use one hand then the other, and vary between slow to fast.
- Edging is the name of the game. Don’t let them orgasm for as long as possible.
- If they’re comfortable and don’t mind having their anus penetrated, stimulate their sacred spot (which is also known as the prostate).
- When you’re ready, and not before, allow them to ejaculate and orgasm.
Yoni Erotic Massage
A yoni massage focuses on stimulating and pleasuring the vulva:
- Have the woman lie on her back on a comfortable surface with a pillow under her hips, knees up, and her feet on the ground.
- Get her to focus on her breath, centring and relaxing.
- Warm up with a body massage or tantric breast massage to gently turn her on and build arousal.
- Moving your hands to her vulva, begin stimulating the clitoris. Alternate the finger motions between circling, pushing and pulling, tugging and rolling, tapping, and the all-importnat internal G-spot massage.
Tantric breast massage
Atantric breast, or nipple, massage simply applies tantra massage principles specifically to the breasts:
- Ask her to first focus on her breath. Take long, deep breaths whenever it feels comfortable during the erotic massage.
- Drip some warm scented oil between their breasts, as well as over the belly.
- Start by massaging the belly in circular motions to stir up sexual energy before moving up to the breasts.
- Circle both of the breasts using a feather-like gentle touch. Once the nipples have hrdened with arousal, move on to massaging and squeezing them.
- As it becomes clear they are turned on and fully aroused, move to the nipples using combinations of tracing, pinching, and rolling.
- Judge when they are getting close to orgasm from the stimulation, then massage her body up to the neck, head, and scalp. Ask her to undulate her spine and rock her hips to create arousal throughout the whole body, looking to create waves of pleasure.
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